A poor self-image is the magnifying glass that can transform a trivial mistake or an imperfection into an overwhelming symbol of personal defeat—David D. Burns
So you think that you are looking bad? Too ugly or not attractive? Do you know that many people think that they are ugly only because they have a poor self-image and not because they really look bad?
A high opinion about yourself and who you are and what you do and basically a love for yourself is one of the things that most people often miss or have too little of in today’s society.
Nothing is more important than how you feel and think about yourself.
How you see yourself in your own eyes determines what you get out of life. Self-image is your own conception of yourself. It is the mental and emotional picture you hold in your consciousness of who you are and what you represent.
Self-image determines your capacity to give, receive, and interact with the life experiences and possibilities that confronts you daily. Your Self-image is like a magnet, attracting or repelling like or unlike qualities into your life experiences.
How then do you know that you have a poor self-image?
Well, I have compiled five signals that connotes poor self-image. In doing your own personal analysis of your self-image, these are the certain signals to look out for.
5. Pretending that everything is OK
Camouflaging that everything is OK when in the actual sense is not, is to eliminate virtually all possibility for your personal growth and development. In process, you deceive yourself into thinking that there is no need for change or improvement, and develop a false sense of complacency. The nature of problems and challenges is that, they get even worse if they continue unresolved.
4 Waiting for someone else to solve your problems/challenges
Got a problem? Who doesn’t? Problems are not issues but how we perceive them. Greatest of men have been made through thick times of life. When you wait on someone to solve your problems and challenges, you neutralize your own possibilities for learning and growing through experiences. This conscious act subconsciously cause you to lose faith in your abilities.
3. Criticizing other people constantly.
Is your criticism constructive and motivated by true care, concern and desire to help? Or is it based on envy, jealously, and thoughts of inferiority? If your criticism does not inspire the best in the other person, then it is not constructive. Negative criticism harms not just the other person but you as well; it is putting your self Image on a sinking ground.
2. Running away from your problems.
One of the deadly decisions you can make in face of problems is to run away from it. Problems doesn’t solve itself. You got to have the boldness to face your problems as it comes. When you solve a problem, you grow stronger in faith and self-confidence. As your faith and confidence grows, your ability to tackle greater problems and challenges improves. Live Bold and Bloom!
1. Putting blame on someone else.
Perhaps you have been in a one or two situations where things go against expectation and you are tempted to launch blames on some else for your own actions. For crying out loud, you got to accept responsibilities. If you fail to take responsibility for your actions, you can do little or nothing to change it, and you cannot grow through it. And that which you cannot grow through, you will go through again and again.
“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”—Maria Robinson