“I truly believe that everything that we do and everyone that we meet is put in our path for a purpose. There are no accidents; we’re all teachers – if we’re willing to pay attention to the lessons we learn, trust our positive instincts and not be afraid to take risks or wait for some miracle to come knocking at our door!” The quote from Marla Gibbs, literally got me immersed in the pool of thoughts. One thing that makes an incredible difference to your life is your attitude. So the question is – what is your attitude like?
For many years, the young fighter, Muhammed Ali told everyone, “I’m the greatest!” Today, few people would disagree that he was the greatest of his days and is one of the greatest in boxing history.
The most valuable asset you can possess is a positive attitude toward your life. It isn’t how much knowledge you possess about maintaining positive attitude that’s important; but how well and consistently you put it to use.
Have you ever felt like everyone else was doing better than you? Have you ever felt like the deck was so stacked against you that you would never catch up? I understand that feeling. I had it for much of my teenage life and I never accepted it as an end zone.
Today’s attitude is tomorrow’s reality. The rock that lie beneath the water’s service, determine whether a river runs clear and smooth or white – water rough. We become what we tell ourselves daily. So, If you change the limiting stories you tell yourself, you will be able to change your life.
The Ohio Longitudinal Study of Aging and Retirement carried out by Robert Atchley, PhD in Oxford, Ohio revealed that, positive attitude can actually lengthen your life. Are you surprised? In the study, over 1,100 people over the age of 50 participated in the study. There were many follow ups during the years. In the 1990s Yale University Psychologist Becca Levy, PhD researched the answers of the participants and compared the answers with the average lifespan of those who completed the survey. She discovered that those who gave answers showing a positive attitude towards aging lived 7.6 years longer than those who didn’t.
If a positive attitude can help you live longer what else can it help you achieve? The answer is – almost anything!
Here’s how you can cultivate a positive attitude:
- Remember that YOU control your attitude
Attitude does not emerge from what happens to you, but instead from how you decide.
- Adopt beliefs that frame events in a positive way
Your beliefs and rules about life and work determine how you interpret events and therefore your attitude. Decide to adopt “strong” beliefs that create a good attitude rather than beliefs that create a bad attitude.
- Ignore whiners and complainers
Whiners and complainers see the world through crap-colored glasses. They’d rather talk about what’s irreparably wrong, rather than make things better. More importantly, complainers can’t bear to see somebody else happy and satisfied. Avoid these set of individuals.
- Use a more positive vocabulary
The words that come out of your mouth aren’t just a reflection of what’s in your brain–they’re programming your brain how to think. Therefore, if you want to have a positive attitude, your vocabulary must be consistently positive.
- Create a “library” of positive thoughts
Spend at least 15 minutes every morning to read, view, or listen to something inspirational or motivational. If you do this regularly, you’ll have those thoughts and feelings ready at hand (or rather, ready to mind) when events don’t go exactly the way you’d prefer.
“If you look the right way, you can see that the whole world is a garden.” —Frances Hodgson Burnett