What is holding you back from full self-expression? Shyness. Fear of being judged. Fear of making a fool of yourself. Fear of failure. Fear of rejection.
When I was younger, there were major decisions I could not take because I could not fully expressed myself among friends and in public. This stole my confidence, self-esteem, self love and left me with nothing.
As I grew older, I began to understand through reading and teachings that, if I must raise the bar and live the life I have always dreamed of, I must initiate a turning point in how I see, feel and think of myself.
The problem never got solved till I gained admission into the university. It was then I overcame it little by little and that opened a new door of opportunities for me.
When people don’t express themselves, they die one piece at a time.
How you think of yourself influences how you express yourself. If you cannot express yourself, you cannot achieve greatness.
According to a research at the University of California “The act of Self-expression involves projecting one’s own thoughts and ideas into the world.”
It is as vital to living as breathing. It is about being the very best we can be. It is about us, and it has nothing to do with anyone else’s power. Others’ power cannot diminish us. It is how we interact with others and the world. It can be supremely fulfilling or irritably frustrating.
Reasons Why People Don’t Express Themselves
The reasons why people don’t express themselves differ from person to person. These could be some of the reasons behind it:
- Difficulty to admit some goals in life: If you can’t accept your goals in life, expressing yourself will be a major challenge on a long run.
- They don’t want to be judged: Expressing oneself and being judged instead of receiving sympathy and understanding could hinder one from expressing himself.
- Personality trait: Introverted people feel more comfortable holding back their emotions to themselves than speaking forth.
- Childhood experience: This can lead to poor people skills and thus less expressive behavior.
- Fear of rejection: People hates rejection with passion and are scared expressing themselves could lead to it.
- Poor self image: Nothing is more important than how you feel and think about yourself. How you think about you influences how well you express yourself.
Recommended: 5 Signals of a Poor Self Image
Expressing yourself doesn’t just mean saying what you wear or what you believe. It’s doing what makes you happy.
Self – expression takes place through communication, body language, artwork, and even our clothes and hairstyles. It includes how we decorate our homes and the way we drive a car. It is usually divided into three aspects: Emotional Expression, Assertiveness and Independence.
EMOTIONAL EXPRESSION includes both facial expressions and body movements that accompany the internal experience of emotion and that clearly serve to communicate that emotion to others. On the other hand, ASSERTIVENESS is a complex and essential component of emotional intelligence that transcends one’s ability to express emotion. Basically if one is assertive he/she will not hesitate from saying what they think or feel. Being assertive leads to independence, because one stops thinking of the other person, and is not emotionally dependent on the environment. INDEPENDENCE therefore, is the ability to be self-directed and free from emotional dependency on others.
Why is it a Good Idea to Express You?
- It helps you feel more complete.
- It is a great way to discover happy opportunities.
- It helps to bridge the gap between real and your imagined self.
- Eternal peace of mind is initiated.
- It builds your confidence and boost self esteem etc.
Being self-expressed connotes that people will see your spirit and true character; they will see the totality of who you are. And sharing of one’s “self” fully is the ultimate in generosity and is vital for peace, freedom, happiness and fulfillment.
There is great power in being you to the fullest. No one can give that to you nor can they take it away or do it for you. It is yours. It lives inside you. It can be grown, cultivated and developed. You have access to that source of power. It is as easy — and as difficult — as going within.
Six Guides to become more fully self-expressed:
- Speak Your Truth in the Moment:Perhaps, for some of us, speaking our truth, in the moment, may be difficult because of fear of confrontation and lack of confidence, but not speaking our truth can have damaging effects on self-esteem and even health.
- Define Yourself:Explore new ways of thinking and being, and you may discover that you have talents and passions you never knew existed. “People often say that this person or that person has not yet found himself. But the self is not something that one finds. It is something that one creates,” said Psychiatrist Thomas Szasz.
- Engage in Creative Techniques:We can help birth ideas and create new possibilities for our life with creative techniques. Some creative techniques to try include: writing daily about anything that’s on your mind, keeping an idea book that you can carry with you, brainstorming, and creating vision boards.
- Acquire Self Knowledge – Know Who You Are:As the words themselves proclaim, Self Knowledge is knowledge of who we truly are. It is the ultimate answer to the perennial question “Who am I?” I am asking you today, WHO ARE YOU?
- Go after Your Passion Voraciously: Find out what your passion is and drive it to action. Dr. Wayne Dyer so eloquently says, “Don’t die with the music still in you. Listen to your intuitive inner voice and find what passion stirs your soul.”
- Develop a Keen Sense of Reality:Living in reality can be tough, but if we want to become more fully self-expressed we must face and do something about the situations that are not working for us.
Are their steps you have taken not mentioned in this article that has helped you become more self expressed? Kindly share with us.